Best Man Wedding Speeches

So your best friend came up to you and asked you to do the best of all best man wedding speeches at his wedding some four months from now.  Aside from your mixed feelings about him getting married and probably not being able to hang out with you as much as he used to, you are happy to oblige.  He is your best friend after all and you want the guy to be happy.  Click here if you need an impressive and funny wedding speech.

For a month or two you won’t even remember about the speech; still got so much time.  Then something wedding related pops up in a conversation and you remember.  You make a mental note; maybe even scribble a few illegible words on a napkin.  Your speech will be one of those funny best man wedding speeches.  You lose the napkin.

Three more weeks go by and you start to feel the pressure that you finally need to get something on paper.  So you plan on sitting down on Saturday, after breakfast.  Great plan.  On Friday afternoon your best friend calls you and asks you to help him move some stuff into the new apartment.  Of course you’re happy to help.  There was something you had planned for Saturday, but it couldn’t have been very important since you can’t seem to remember what it was.

Another week goes by; when during the fitting of the tux the thought shoots up your spine and into your stomach: you still got squat when it comes to wedding speeches for the best man.  Now what?  The wedding is just days away.

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You don’t dare asking your other friends for advice.  Wouldn’t they have a field day with this?  So you finally get over yourself and go ask your dad.  He’s happy to help you and gives you a few pointers.  You scribble them down, turn the page this way and that.  Start writing your own thing, but it just won’t flow.  After wasting an entire yellow pad you’re drenched in the sweat of desperation and ready to thrown in the towel and go confess.

Well, not quite.  There was that old magazine that had a couple of best man wedding speeches examples, and lo and behold, you find the magazine.  But they are somewhat corny, trying to be funny or just plain same old, same old. — If this comes close to describing the last four months of your life, it’s time you made yourself a plan:

When writing a wedding speech you need to build a skeleton or structure to build on and to fill out.  Make a list of the things you like best about your friend and also about the bride.  Also make a short list of a few good anecdotes from stuff you’ve been through together.  Funny is great, icky is to be avoided and always keep the bride’s feelings in mind (and with that also the grooms feelings and dignity).

-         Start with a focus on the couple and underline a couple of great things about them as a couple.

-         Then you can do a flash back to when you got to know your friend and dig up some long forgotten anecdotes (again: keep it tasteful and funny).

-         Go over the time the bride and groom got to know each other from your perspective (the official version of course).

-         Weave in the great things about your friend and also nice details about the bride.

-         Express your hopes for their future happiness, of which of course you will be an integral part and

-         close with a witty toast.

There you’ve got yourself a structure.  Fill it in with your experiences and you’ve got yourself a concise and structured best man wedding speech.  A word of advice:  When doing best man wedding speeches never embarrass anyone.  It would pour a bucket of cold water on the celebration and could put a dent into your friendship.  Stay on the bride’s good side and you will pave the way for a long lasting friendship with the both of them.

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Let’s be honest: the thought of wedding – best man speeches and such is not exactly in our comfort zone.  We’re really good at being best friends and hanging out together, even pitching in whenever and however needed.  But making a speech in front of tons of people, many of whom you don’t know and many you may know too well for your own comfort; now that’s a whole different kind of animal.

How do you write best man wedding speaches that are funny, entertaining and impressive even and in the process don’t step on anyone’s toes?  Well first of all brainstorm and get all the anecdotes and memories that you can think of on paper.  If you’ve known each other from childhood, there ought to a couple of funny incidences that merit to be mentioned and shine a personal light on the groom (or the bride if you’ve known her for a long time also).  You want to find some memories that describe your friend well and underline his characteristics, that show who he is and who the bride is getting married to.  Going over an old photo album may be helpful to trigger memories.  Surely the groom’s mom will be happy to provide you with an album and/or memorabilia to bring back memories from the “good old days”.

Now when you have your list of memories and also the things you like best about him, make another list of the people that will be attending the wedding that you know personally.  When looking at both lists, scratch the memories that would leave a person present at the wedding in a bad light.  If the anecdote has the potential to be hurtful or offensive to anyone present at the celebration, scratch it.  The best pun in history is not worth the ensuing fall-out.

Now that you have whittled your list down to usable material go over it again and pick the ones that best describe your friend or bring out some hidden characteristic not everybody knows him for (as long as you don’t get him into trouble) for your best shot at a best man wedding speech.

Now you only need to get your ducks to line up.  I always recommend you start focusing on the couple and point out a couple of things that make them a great couple and brought them to this happy day.  Then bring in some anecdotes that show the bride who she’s getting hitched to.  You can go on to the historic part and portray the groom in all his glory (or attempts at it).  Also weave in some nice characteristics of the bride if you know her well enough.  Practically present the groom to the bride as the best thing that could have happened to her, shine a bright light on their future together and close your speech with a funny or witty toast.

Of all the best man wedding speeches out there, yours will be fondly remembered and will cement your friendship with the couple.  And it even might get you some brownie points with Aunt Lucille, whom you didn’t take revenge on by pointing out that certain event some twenty-five years ago when she became that “not so favorite aunt”, even though it would have been sooo funny.

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You’re the best man and now it’s your responsibility to come up with the best of best man wedding speeches. Now what?  May be you’ve never done something like this before.  Maybe you have given one of those best man wedding speaches and it really went down the tubes.  You drew a blank, you picked the wrong anecdote and now the groom’s mom still gives you the look every time you go by their house.

I’ve been there, done that (and not in a glorious way the first time around, believe me), and have found that structuring your speech helps a lot to get from A to E without going through L, M, N, O, P.  What do I mean?  Well write down a few points that need mentioning:

-         An introduction:  who you are and why you are doing the speech, short and to the point.

-         A Beginning: What a great couple the bride and groom make and what makes them so.  Take your time there.

-         A Middle Part:  Where you fill things out with some anecdotes and memories to describe the groom in vivid color (funny is always good).

-         Winding down:  With a projection of the couple’s wonderful future.  Short and sweet.

-         A Closing:  Use a witty toast and make the guests laugh.

This gives you a map to follow.  Otherwise you may be aimlessly floundering around in the murky waters of memories; some great to be shared, some best forgotten.  Write down the anecdotes you think best to share and make the groom come out as the hero.  You just can’t go wrong there.

Just always keep in mind that it is your best friend getting married and that you will make this day even better by giving one of the best wedding speeches for the best man the world has seen so far.

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